Thread: How to fit in here?

What was this thread about. I forgot!

It's that doggone RNC thread. Like poison...

I'm willing to bet 2 dollars cold hard cash we lose another one before it's over.

Well...Let's all just chill.

Soldier! Bleep-out some of that, willya?

Originally Posted by gugi

You know what, may be Str8Up has a valid point and I should have been much more forgiving towards a person with mental illness.
However, I have a pretty nice and comfortable middle class life without having to face difficult situations like this and I don't have the training or skills to properly deal with such individuals. So, I take the easy way out - do what I think is reasonable for a normal person, try to go a bit beyond leaning towards forgiveness and another chances and then I give up.

It would have been really helpful if people like Str8Up who have the passion to help such people can pitch in - when they see somebody with problems they can befriend them, offer support and guidance, help me understand in what way I could do better, and whatever else may be necessary. Perhaps then things could indeed go differently.

Strangely enough Str8Up chose a very different and rather counterproductive approach that frankly puzzles me. May be it is another case of being harsh on a person with a mental illness, may be it isn't, but either way those who want things handled differently have two options - jump in and help prevent these things from escalating to a ban, or get a different forum administrator who is more capable than me in dealing with the mentally ill.

To be a MOD/ADMIN in online forum is no fun at all. I've been a MOD/ADMIN in a gaming forum. Rules are posted and need to be enforced. Sometimes there are "grey" areas, but for the most part the rules are the rules. I've muted people, put them on forum probation and lifetime banned them too. Not fun! Being a MOD is a lot of work..... No pay and people expect a MOD to be there 24/7 to "police" or correct issues. Most of us do have full time jobs, families or other activities in real life that a MOD can't be on here all the time or dealing with BS from the forums.

We all have our issues in one way or another. Whether it's just a personality issue or an actual medical mental issue. Most people know what they said right after they hit the send button. I learned a long time ago from being in online groups to not take things personally. If I did have an issue with some one and it was a serious one.... I would mention to friends first and see what they say or message the person I am having an issue with....and if worse came to worse....message a MOD.

A lot of people come and go in this online forums. I know everyone sees it. We all aren't always to going to get a long. But we do get over it and tomorrow is another day.

Originally Posted by ReardenSteel

I'm willing to bet 2 dollars cold hard cash we lose another one before it's over.

We don't do valuations on this forum !

Originally Posted by Hirlau

We don't do valuations on this forum !

HAR! ...........................

I have had a strong disagreement on a topic with a mod and didn't get banned but many posters cannot have strong words without being vulgar or disrespectful, blame it on mastery of language or whatever. Being a gentleman IMHO is being able to disagree without disrespecting others and controlling your feelings so you don't lash out irrationally...

Have a great day...

Originally Posted by S0LITARYS0LDIER

The amount of ass kissing and crying in this thread alone is unbelievable. It's like some people here fight for the spot of under the "mods" desk.. I feel like Utopian is #1 contender right now with a decent sized line up behind him.

I get the OP was a little upset about his aparent abuse or whatever it was that gugi was doing to the guy but why the hell wasn't this deleted. I post less vulgar shit then this and it gets deleted almost instantly.. and shortly after I recieve a pm.

Can't we all get along?

I'm not here to speak for Utopian,,,

But,,,

The issues that lead to FAL getting banned have been laid out for a long time & if you knew of them & the restraint that was exercised in dealing with those issues; then you would not have posted what you did. If you knew the history of the past 6 or 7 years involving certain members here, then you would know that Utopian would be last person to be under anyone's desk, let alone Gugi's desk.

I battled in the beginning with the Administration on issues other than shaving; then I got smart. I realized its a shaving forum. Certain members here, that I still consider friends, will no longer give me the time of day, because I won't battle with Gugi or other MOD.'s over certain issues.

Why ??

Why indeed, John.
Just enjoy the forum.

Lots to enjoy, IMO.

Yes there is.
I have talked to people from all over the world here,, seen their photos. It's a way to travel for me, experience places that I will never see in person.